This post is specially dedicated to friends/family out there who is stuck in any kind of rut, frustrations or heartbreaks.
The questions I constantly seek, What is Happiness? How can I be truly Happy?
This morning, when I stumbled on this advice from Oprah's show, I thought I ought to share it with as many of you as possible.....and you know who you are.
First of all, this sentence below really sums up everything.
"Being successful in life is not what really matters. Being significant in life is really the core root of what matters."
Excerpts from Oprah's show (in bold)
Happiness expert Dr. Robert Holden has some advice on how to live a more satisfying life. Dr. Holden says the key to being happy is overcoming "destination addiction," which he defines as "living in the not-now." "It's always about tomorrow, so you're chasing 'more,' 'next' and 'there,'" he says.
"You promise yourself that when you get there, you'll be happy. And I promise you, you won't, because you'll always set another destination to go for." Instead, Dr. Holden says if you are unhappy with your life or looking to improve your score, there are two things you can do. "We have to learn to let go of our past, we have to give up all hopes for a perfect past. Let the past go, it's gone." After that, he says, "Take a vow of kindness. Be kinder to yourself and to others. "It's never too late to be happy," he says.
'You have to understand that the pursuit of happiness is a mistake. It's like, you don't chase happiness out there. You learn that you're happy inside you and then you go running. Then you go into the world.'"
A happy lady's testimony.'
"Negative out, positive in." She says she believes happiness is a conscious effort. "It's about claiming what's yours. If you want a positive life, you need to think positively and act positively," she says. "I do my best not to compare myself with others. I've always felt that what one person has may not be destined for me."
Dr Holden's advice to Noreen, an unhappy young lady.
So how can Noreen find fulfillment? Dr. Holden says to look within her heart. "What really occurs to me is … you are such a good person. … But I realized that you've not made some of the best choices in your life in the past," Dr. Holden says. "Those choices, I think, are being motivated really by a lack of what I call self-acceptance, which is where we somehow don't believe we deserve any more than we have."The law of attraction could make a big difference for Noreen, Dr. Holden says. "The way the law of attraction works is that as we increase our self-acceptance, we attract more happiness," he says.
Dr. Holden says that Noreen needs to realize that she is, indeed, a great person. One way she can do that is to surround herself with people who already know that. "I think it's also great to have some friends around you who can remind you, because we do forget," Dr. Holden says.
I'm sure most of us can identify with either the happy or the unhappy ladies above. When we truly believe that we deserve happiness, we don't even need to pursue it. Happiness will come looking for you!!!
I constantly try to advise my friends and even myself that we must KNOW we deserve Happiness. Not hoping for it. Not looking for it. Not thinking it's a bonus if we do get it. We have the right to own it. Therefore, when we BELIEVE we deserve it, we will Have it.
Lets work together towards the road of blissfull endings...or beginnings.
Love you all.
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